How to pick your Travel Buddy?

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“Hey F*** Bro, I found a cheap plane ticket to New Zealand, shall we do it?” Marion, 25

“Vamoooooos!” Julian, 27

My brother and I are going on our 10th trip together this Fall and it is far from being the last one. After that we are heading to Iceland and next year to South America.

This all started when I went to live in Cancun for 6 months and he decided to come along and benefit from that opportunity to discover the country. We had so much fun road tripping that he decided to come again the next year when I graduated from my MBA in Chicago and we visited the East Coast, Louisiana, Florida and Jamaica.

  So much fun, so many memories (only good ones) and just a unique experience of discovering the world without the downside effects of travelling with someone.  Some people may say it’s better to travel alone because you can decide when you want to eat, what you want to see and where you want to go.

But the thing is, my brother and I are so laid-back that it is working well. I would not even say it’s a matter of compromise because if one decides to visit a temple and the other is fed up with temples and wants to see the tigers (true story in Thailand, I let you guess who was fed up with temples!) then we both take two different directions and at the end of the day share dinner and tell each other how amazing was our day. No one is upset and both of us are happy as we did what we wanted to.

The secret recipe to travelling with your sibling is to let him enjoy the same trip the way he wants to and vice versa.

No point getting upset because he does not wake up as early as you. Just grab your book and sit by the sea, watch the sunrise and enjoy the peaceful morning. This was one of my best memories in Brazil. Think about it, why would you wake him up if he is tired (because after all it’s also his holidays). Just let him rest and go enjoy your day. He will be less annoyed than if you had woke him up.

Amongst thousands of memories we shared on these trips, the ones we would never forget is me throwing up a $28 jerk lobster in Jamaica on the most beautiful beach of the island (yes I had a stomach bug...and we are still laughing at this $28 bill).

Us renting a jet ski in Cancun and laughing so hard it hurt, us ordering a pina colada in Cuba and receiving the whole bottle of rum to top up (you know...Cuban way!), us losing each other at the Full Moon Party and randomly running into each other at 5am on the beach full of body painting, us hiking for 8 hours straight in the torrential rain remaking the world, us having Thanksgiving dinner in Everglades, us learning how to dance Samba in Brazil, us singing Miley Cirus “Wrecking Ball”  in our rented car on the way down to Key West.

Us in Thailand competing in the water pretending we were candidates from the Survivor TV Show, me struggling real time on a 40 blocks walk in the Miami heat with a Backpack heavier than me and him laughing to tears whilst taking pictures, him getting bitem by a Monkey in Thailand and receiving a rabies shot that costs us a fortune whilst he had lost his credit card before and I had reach my withdrawal limit and so many more!

Every single backpacker we met had told us “how can you travel with your brother/sister” and we would reply in chorus “why not, it’s so easy! Why don’t you do it?”. Then you would see them take a minute to think with whom they would go with, “my sister no way, maybe my brother…”So far we are counting 9 trips travelling together and try to plan 2 long hauls per year.

The countries we have visited are Mexico, USA, Jamaica, Thailand, Cuba, Brazil and New Zealand this year. We kind of pick the destination at random based on plane tickets and bucket list inspirations. I mentioned earlier it is not about compromise but kind of is. I crave beaches he requests history and we always find the great destination for that! I convinced him to go to Brazil and he convinced me to go to Cuba and those were to me the best of all!If you too have a sibling that likes to travel but still doubt that it would work I would say “you don’t know until you try”.

My brother and I were the opposite when younger but the more we grow up the more best friends we become as we complement each other and that’s the beauty of the relationship. We call each other “Soul sister & Fuckin’ Bro”, this came from that Train song “Soul sister” and from that rebel age when you swear all the time!

Koh Lanta Tv Show revisited!
Every single backpacker we met had told us “how can you travel with your brother/sister” and we would reply in chorus “why not, it’s so easy! Why don’t you do it?”. Then you would see them take a minute to think with whom they would go with, “my sister no way, maybe my brother…”So far we are counting 9 trips travelling together and try to plan 2 long hauls per year.

The countries we have visited are Mexico, USA, Jamaica, Thailand, Cuba, Brazil and New Zealand this year. We kind of pick the destination at random based on plane tickets and bucket list inspirations. I mentioned earlier it is not about compromise but kind of is. I crave beaches he requests history and we always find the great destination for that! I convinced him to go to Brazil and he convinced me to go to Cuba and those were to me the best of all!If you too have a sibling that likes to travel but still doubt that it would work I would say “you don’t know until you try”.

My brother and I were the opposite when younger but the more we grow up the more best friends we become as we complement each other and that’s the beauty of the relationship. We call each other “Soul sister & Fuckin’ Bro”, this came from that Train song “Soul sister” and from that rebel age when you swear all the time!
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“Travel far enough, you meet yourself”

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